It’s not about will power. Creating change can be positively supported by consciously working with six sources of influence. The first two involve a personal review. What is your personal motivation? When we can learn to connect with our goals during critical moments, we improve our chances of creating changes. Those patterns and habits that we already have can get in the way. So typically the second area, involves learning new skills.
You probably know what needs to happen to create the new successes you want to achieve. Yet, you haven’t been able to enact those changes. Maybe those changes are painful or uncomfortable for you. Maybe they seem boring. “Change Anything” Authors suggest tactics to help you learn to love what you hate. Those of you have been on a path with me for many years may remember my story of overcoming a lifelong fear of roller coasters. For me, the motivation was overcoming fear. I wanted to know what it would take. I was also coaching others to do the same. I wanted to walk my talk. The first step in overcoming fear was to get in touch with my motivation. It definitely served me as I got closer and closer to the front of the lines to get on the beasts. There were chicken exits for every one of them. Getting in touch with my motivation at those critical moments, when I could still back out, was important.
The second arena involves a skill scan. What personal new skills do I need to learn to support change? The authors suggest a strategy I also employed in overcoming my fear, do what you can’t. I broke my experiences into small pieces, starting on the smallest roller coasters, adding skills related to screaming, focusing on distance, and being in the moment, as I expanded in size. By the second day I had ridden the fastest and biggest roller coasters in the world and followed up later that year with a two week trip to seven parks, which allowed me to transform the experience completely.
So what change are you going to experiment with this week? Get clear on your personal motivation. Write it down. (Remember, 30% improvement in success when you write it down!) Now, take a skill scan. What do you need to learn, or what skills do you need to develop. Break it down into small pieces. You may not know them all now. (I didn’t when I started out.) Don’t worry about that. Just start now, and start small. And most of all, HAVE FUN WITH IT!!