The second two sources of influence that support change involve our social motivation and abilities. Who do you surround yourself with? Are they accomplices or friends? Who do you bring into your life to help you learn new information, to change your patterns and habits, to support your changes? Reassessing, updating and recruiting should all be strategies you use to support your shifts.
When friends are encouraging you to continue with habits that don’t support what you want, or enabling unhealthy behaviors, they become accomplices. Friends, coaches and fans all help, cheer and support your transformation. You can try telling your accomplices what you want and need, and see if they can truly be friends. If not, maybe it’s best to distance yourself from them.
People who have more than a half dozen friends, a coach and fans, are almost 40% more likely to succeed than those with fewer than a half dozen friends. Bringing people into your life who have accomplished what you want, can teach you skills you want, or are growing into the same arenas as you, are all great additions. Consider a group coaching program, and you’ll have it right away.
Who are your accomplices? If you’re looking to lose weight, do your accomplices encourage you to have that dessert since you just worked out? If you’re trying to improve your financial situation, do they take you out to browse the stores when you’re down, and are more likely to succumb to emotional spending? Have you communicated to those around you what you’re trying to do? Can they be transformed into friends?
Do you have a coach? That is, someone who can help you develop some new skills gives you honest feedback and honor and helps you tap into your personal wisdom? Do you have fans? If you’ve been playing along with me, you’ve gotten clear on your motivation and you’ve identified the skills you want to develop. Now add the social components with friends, fans, and coaches who can support you both in motivation and in the development of new skills. You’ll have four of the six influences working in your favor.
Next week I’ll introduce you to the final two components. Consider what you might accomplish in the next three months if you set your mind to it. Pick one area of your life. Today is the perfect day to begin.
When friends are encouraging you to continue with habits that don’t support what you want, or enabling unhealthy behaviors, they become accomplices. Friends, coaches and fans all help, cheer and support your transformation. You can try telling your accomplices what you want and need, and see if they can truly be friends. If not, maybe it’s best to distance yourself from them.
People who have more than a half dozen friends, a coach and fans, are almost 40% more likely to succeed than those with fewer than a half dozen friends. Bringing people into your life who have accomplished what you want, can teach you skills you want, or are growing into the same arenas as you, are all great additions. Consider a group coaching program, and you’ll have it right away.
Who are your accomplices? If you’re looking to lose weight, do your accomplices encourage you to have that dessert since you just worked out? If you’re trying to improve your financial situation, do they take you out to browse the stores when you’re down, and are more likely to succumb to emotional spending? Have you communicated to those around you what you’re trying to do? Can they be transformed into friends?
Do you have a coach? That is, someone who can help you develop some new skills gives you honest feedback and honor and helps you tap into your personal wisdom? Do you have fans? If you’ve been playing along with me, you’ve gotten clear on your motivation and you’ve identified the skills you want to develop. Now add the social components with friends, fans, and coaches who can support you both in motivation and in the development of new skills. You’ll have four of the six influences working in your favor.
Next week I’ll introduce you to the final two components. Consider what you might accomplish in the next three months if you set your mind to it. Pick one area of your life. Today is the perfect day to begin.
